You need to raise your self-esteem. Be positive and be open minded. Find things that make you confident.

xo Julia

Posted 1 month ago

I personally don’t think it’s a bad issue at all. It’s not your fault who you end up falling for. I think it might be a little bit harder to get into the original guy’s good books since you turned him down once. But, I think you should put it aside. What’s stopping you from getting your happiness? Absolutely nothing! You are going to be fine! I’m sure there is no problem and you are stressing for nothing! Come back and let us know how it goes?! 

xxx Naomi  

Posted 3 months ago

Just tell him you’d like to be friends and that you’re sorry. Just be honest and that’s the best you can do.

xo Julia

Posted 3 months ago

You are so beyond welcome. I’m not just talking about myself when I say this but of course we care. We are here to help you as much as we could. And it warms my heart to know that I could help or even the other guys to help out. We are always here. 

Naomi xxx

Posted 3 months ago

Of course its okay, you can come anytime if you need any advice or when you want to talk. :) We’ll do our best to help you guys out. Back to your post, well I believe its best to actually talk about what you like in general. It doesn’t have to be a very complex or deep conversation. It’s pretty much a great idea to start to talk about your interests. It’s more easier to start off conversation when you talk about what you like, etc. I’m not a great conversation starter either, but I like to talk about my likes and interest. I find it easier, and I’m sure you will do too. Be yourself when it comes to interest, but don’t over flow the whole conversation about the topic you choose a lot. If you find another person get bores somehow, try to change to a topic to a “small” talk, like how is your day? what are you study? have you watch this movie… etc? When you get response, try to pick it up from there. For example if you talk about your interest about movie, and the other person said, “oh yeah I watched it” you can try to pick it up like, ” that movie is great!” etc… and about worry of saying the wrong things, dear you don’t need to worry! Conversations starts off with opinion and interest, it doesn’t requires right or wrong topic. ( just don’t make the conversation sounds rude or offend and you’ll be just fine.) 

I hope I helped dear! if you still doubt in some way, feel free to ask for the clarification. :) 

Best of luck, xoxo. 

-Worawan ♥

Posted 3 months ago

Coming from a person who sometimes feels the same as you do. You need to remember that you are your own person. Your words and opinions should be valued let alone taken into consideration. If you are unsure what you did, then it is more than likely that you simply didn’t do anything. Sometimes friends grow apart, and interests are changing. You shouldn’t take it to heart that you’re being ignored, because at the end of the day they are bad people. Nobody should disrespect you or what you have to say. You aren’t overreacting. I would have done the exact same thing! 
My advise, would be simply look for some better friends. I know it’s hard, making friends is always painful and scary. But the way I see it, is the your friendship group isn’t even worth being in. Friends aren’t meant to allow your low self-esteem get the better of you let alone spike some more paranoia within you. Friends are meant to piece the void of loneliness together. And since what you’re telling me, its clear they aren’t doing anything for you but making life harder! It’s time to claim whats yours; better friends! 
You deserve it having people in your life who make you laugh and you can laugh at without the fear of upsetting somebody. Best of luck!

- Naomi xxx 

Posted 3 months ago

Apologizes on not getting back to you sooner! I am so sorry to hear about this. It actually pains me to know that you’ve started cutting yourself. Especially due to friends that don’t care and a boy that you fell for who wasn’t even worth the time because he’s made you feel like this. You are never ever annoying me.
Personally, I would distance myself from my “friends”. Because no friends would ever do that to you. As for the boy, he is a turd. You deserve much more and deserve to be treated like a princess. Your friends should have not done that. You are beautiful, and an amazing person who wears her heart on her sleeve. Now, please stop cutting. It’s a bad habit to get into and one that can’t be stopped quickly. Start doing things that you neglected to do. Find things that made you happy. Before your friends and this worthless boy who does not deserve you, your time or even effort. Come back, always. You are never annoying me or anything like that. Never think that.

Don’t let a couple of dumbasses take something from you, that is not theirs to take. No boy should be able to take away your self worth or pride. No friends are allowed or even entitled to make a mockery of your self esteem or intelligence. Only YOU are allowed to change the standards, and mock yourself. You are so much stronger than you believe you are. Things aren’t in a good place right now, but the only way to overcome is to move forward. And that direction is where all current turds are flushed down the toilet.

(Apologies on the late reply, and all spelling/grammar mistakes. I’m using my phone)

You are beautiful, and I think you are going to be just fine!

Naomi xxx

Posted 4 months ago

It might feel uneasy, but I think if he’s making consistent attempts to contact you & you want him to stop, confrontation may be your only answer. Disable your ask box first, then if he keeps trying to contact you somehow, let him know that you wish not to speak with him anymore.

-Kendricks

Posted 4 months ago

You could confront him about it. Ask him if it was him. Whether he admits or denies it, let him know how you feel, & if you wish not to have contact with him anymore, let him know that, & be firm about it.

If you don’t want to confront him, then perhaps you should disable the anonymous feature on your Tumblr, or remove the ask box altogether.

-Kendricks

Posted 4 months ago

You’re welcome. :)

-Kendricks

Posted 4 months ago

Being single is not “bad.” Personally, I’m going to be turning 20 next year, and I have only been in one relationship that only lasted three months, which is not enough for it to considered a serious relationship. In my opinion, don’t worry about your relationship status. Being in a relationship is a great responsibility because you have to sacrifice certain things in order to ensure that the relationship lasts. Being single allows you to explore and meet potential partners or friends who will play an important role in your life. Jealousy is not the way to go. Rather, be happy that your friends found that special someone, and due to that, be more optimistic that one day, that special someone will find you. In other words, I’m advising you to wait for love to find you instead of you finding love. Instead, focus on making new friendships. And who knows? Maybe one of those friendships can develop into something more. 

Wish you the best, Rosendo 

Posted 4 months ago

You made the right decision by letting him go.

The problem with unofficial relationships is that there is either a lack of or uncertainty in its boundaries. I’m not exactly sure to what extent you two took the term “unofficial,” but whatever the extent was, it lead him to give into his temptations. Not setting concrete boundaries can increase temptations, because there are needs that aren’t being satisfied. Do not make up rules as you go along, but rather express to you partner what is allowed & what is not, if you are going to be in a relationship.

My challenge to you is to take this experience & use it to help reevaluate yourself & ask yourself: what do I really want? Your answer may not be what you thought all along.

-Kendricks

Posted 4 months ago

Don’t be ashamed. Having a a couple good friends is better than having a lot of friends. Just have a party with the ones you know and have a lot of fun :) 

xo Julia

Posted 5 months ago

I am so glad you came back and told me how you went! I am glad my advise helped and made you feel better! I love hearing as well as knowing how the advise went and what was the outcome. I am beyond glad you are feeling much better. You will find heaps of stuff to talk about with the boy! Best of luck!! 
You are so welcome!!

Naomi xxx 

Posted 5 months ago

I think I was a little bit heart broken to read this. I am beyond sorry to hear that your situation with this guy has blown over waters. However, I think if he truly makes you happy than you should continue to talk to him! Try and let him see things from your perspective or even just try again, clean slate. As for your best-friends, I don’t think they seem.. very best-friendish. You deserve better, and you don’t deserve to be dogged like that. You are entitled to feel angry, upset, frustrated, every single emotion under the sun. A best-friend shouldn’t do that to you, nor is it fair for them to just sweep in and ruin this thing that’s going between you and this boy. I think you should continue talking to the boy, like I mentioned earlier. Figure out how much you actually like this boy and how bad of a thing your best-friends did to you. If I was you, I would have literally backed them up in a corner and started yelling my head off at them. But then again, that’s simply me. Come back and let me how this goes okay precious? {It’s the same person that replied earlier}

Posted 5 months ago